Tuesday, December 16, 2008
It's such a double-edged sword. I can take the medicine and go through my day like a robot, or I can skip it, get motivated and not be able to do needed work. I can't win. None of us can!
Monday, December 15, 2008
There are THREE characteristics:
- inattentive, NOT hyperactive or impulsive.
- hyperactive and impulsive, but can pay attention.
- innatentive, hyperactive, and impulsive (the most common type).
Yes, these are all different types. Not all of us are disruptive; I'm certainly not. I'm rather quiet, mostly because of my stunted self esteem. I'm afraid of saying something stupid and being embarrassed about it later on.
I think there's a stereotype about kids with ADD - that they disrupt class and can't stop being little terrors, but that's so far from the truth. I was a daydreamer who never bothered anyone (well, maybe I got on my teacher's nerves for not paying attention, but that's a different story).
We come in all different flavors!
See ya more in later days!
Not being able to concentrate on even simple things.
Having that thousand-yard-stare in class when I should be paying attention.
Not having the motivation to do things that I KNOW I should be doing.
Failing in school, even though I'm NOT DUMB!
Being late to work almost daily.
Now, as a child in school, I didn't really care. Sure, my bad grades CONCERNED me when my mother yelled at me, but it's not like I had to pay my own bills or be otherwise concerned with my own well being. My parents did that for me. As selfish and foolish as that sounds, that's how I was.
Then, a rude awakening...
Having to get a job, go to college, and be accountable for myself.
I found it hard not to fail.
And I kept failing.
One day, I saw a commercial for some ADHD medication. It started out with the old spiel.. "Do you find yourself lacking motivation? Can't pay attention?" And so on. I, shocked, actually paid attention and realized THIS IS ME. THIS IS WHAT I HAVE!!!!!!
It rang clear as a bell.. so I went to my doctor and voiced my concern. However, due to rampant abuse among people my age, I had to see a therapist before I could get medicine to participate in therapy.
The therapist talked to my parents and even a former teacher. He looked at my old report cards. From there, the evidence stacked up pretty cut-and-dry: I had ADHD.
I started taking Concerta.
The first day I took, Concerta, I cried. I will never forget it. I could concentrate. I could listen. I could remember. This gift, given to normal people, was finally mine to share and embrace. And I did, and continue to do so to a degree. But this medicine doesn't come without drawbacks, which I'll be explaining in other entries.
This diagnosis has been a miracle and a curse.
I tried being positive. I did! I tried thanking whoever for this "gift" and being thankful that I've always been a bit weird and unique and therefore fun, but you can't go through life just having fun. At some point, we have to get a job, we have to finish school, we have to settle down, and we have to stick with our responsibilities. ADD has given me procrastination and a profound lack of motivation in every sense. However, I can easily play video games for hours upon end.
And don't get me STARTED about the supposed treatment options. Yes, they are godsends, but let me tell you about each one I've tried. Adderall just made me more tired. Concerta (like Adderall for adults) made me hate everything and sent me into a rage. And Dexedrine, otherwise called Dextroamphetamine, is what I currently take. I feel good for a while, but eventually just wallow in my depression and desire to be cut off from other people.
I. CAN'T. WIN.
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My 13 year old son has huge problems in listening to me. He is ADHD and sometimes I honestly think he doesn't hear me when I talk to him. So when I need him to listen to me I actually go to him and put my hand on his shoulder so I know that he hears me, then I talk to him. I know this might seem extreme but I need to do what works with my son and I know that I can get is attention by using my hand on his shoulder.
This gets me the best results with Sam. He is different from my other kids and I choose to make an allowance for that. I would prefer to focus on other more important things in Sam's life right now. Perhaps as he gets older this will get better.
I have a 14 year old who is not ADHD and I know is capable of more than his other brothers. So I hold him to a much higher standard. This is my choice. I have always told me children that they are individuals and as such I will treat them as individuals.
Sam is playing soccer this season but the others are not. He has a passion for soccer and applies himself diligently therefore I gave him an extra opportunity this season. And that was my choice because I am the mom. It still amazes me how Sam can concentrate so well when there are balls involved but when it comes to listening he just can't quite manage. We are still working on this with him.
When I talk to my children, they are expected to come immediately to help out. But I do still help my little one by going to her and getting down to her level. If you have a child under about 8 years of age, it can help to get down to their level. Even if it means getting onto the floor to talk to them, they will appreciate it and this will help you to connect with your child. It also helps the child realize that you are interested in their world.
I do not call out to my kids through the house unless there is a very urgent reason. We need to model the behavior that we require from our kids and if we call out to them they will do exactly the same. Kids do not do what you tell them to do, but what they see modeled to them. This can be fantastic but it can also work against you if you are not careful.
When we model listening to our kids, our kids will listen to us in return. It really is as simple as that. Don't expect your child to what you are not prepared to do for them. Parenting is a two way street and both parties need to work together to achieve success.
These are just some of the things I do to get my kids to listen to me. The main thing is that if something works for you and your family, then keep on doing it. Different children respond in different ways so what is right for your family might not be right for the next family. Just stick with what works for you.
About the Author
Kim is a single mum with four kids who lives on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland, Australia. she is a best selling author as well as a child behavior management expert and her ebook on raising well behaved children can be found on her web site: www.mychildcanbehave.com
Scientific research has shown that people with deficiency of essential fatty acids develop symptoms which are similar to those seen in children with ADD and ADHD.
An article published in American Journal of Clinical Nutrition says that children "with lower compositions of total omega 3 fatty acids had significantly more behavioral problems, temper tantrums, and learning, health, and sleep problems than did those with high proportions of omega 3 fatty acids." [Vol. 71, No. 1, 327S-330S]
Parents will surely like this natural form of treatment for ADD kids.
And the moment they know that they have several choices; it makes it a lot easier for them to make a decision. It gives them the chance to try the natural approach first.
Prescription drugs may be used, but we also need to consider the serious side effects that it can give. Fish oil on the other hand, does not give bad side effects but only endless health benefits from childhood through old age.
This natural approach of treating children with ADD and ADHD are not being promoted by scientists.
Take the case of a report published in Prostaglandins, Leukotrienes and Essential Fatty Acids, the authors noted that treating ADD and ADHD with omega 3 fatty acids is "safe compared to existing pharmacological interventions" [Vol. 63, No.1-2, pp. 79-87]
It eventually got more exciting, when a scientist, made an effort of reviewing all presented studies on omega 3s and presented his findings to the Canadian Journal of Psychiatry [Vol. 48:195-203], "that higher dosages of omega-3 fatty acids (2 to 4g daily) may ameliorate the symptoms of several psychiatric conditions" ? includes ADD and ADHD.
It can really be a bold statement to make for a scientist. We do not normally see it daily in the scientific world that they became so excited and even used the word "ameliorate" to illustrate a natural nutrient found in food.
"Ameliorate" means make healthier or better (like "cure") and would normally be used only for prescription drugs.
It is good to know that scientific studies back up your need to find ADD fish oil treatment for your kid. And certainly omega 3 fish oil is a very simple solution. By simply adding more oily fish to your family's daily diet plan can jumpstart things for you.
But this should not mean fish sticks and fish patties. They are of course made of whit meat fish, and do not contain that much omega 3s.
What you need to provide is salmon, tuna, sardines, mackerel or herring. The more you serve it, the better. It can be a challenge to get 2 to 4 grams of fish oil daily just by eating those fishes.
You still have an alternative though, and this is to supplement your family's diet with good quality fish oil capsules.
Should you prefer a natural approach rather than traditional medicines, you will have to look for a pure fish oil product (does not contain toxins), with a balanced potency and has all the eight members of the omega 3 family.
It is a solution that has been proven to work well for ADHD and ADD fish oil treatment.
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